My husband and I separated 8 months ago (his choice). Last night he showed up at my door with hot chocolate and said, ‘I can’t do another Christmas without you.’ I still love him, but he hurt me so badly. How do you know if a second chance is real or just seasonal regret?

Eight months is still fresh wound territory. Him showing up with hot chocolate feels romantic until you remember he’s the one who poured the first cup of hurt. Seasonal regret is real, darling. Ask for one thing only: consistent, boring, everyday effort starting January 2nd. If he’s still showing up in February when the lights are down and the credit-card bill is up, then we’ll talk second chances. Until then, protect your peace.